Rethinking Our Way To Success

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As a child, I, as were others was programmed to think a certain way. This morning as I was walking to my car, a thought ran across my mind prompting an epiphany, if you will. The thought involved my son and I realized the context of it, was clearly influenced by my upbringing. It was at that moment, I said to myself, self you need to work on retraining your thought pattern.

Some well known motivational speakers call negative thinking, “stinkin’ thinkin’,” others call it “ruminating”. Now, the essence of my thought about my son wasn’t negative but it wasn’t affirmative either. My focus was more on what he hasn’t accomplished instead of on what he has. Now, I’m a firm believer that our thoughts have as much power as our words.

This is why I believe we should be cognizant of what we say as well as what we think. My son is a gifted photographer. When he was a teenager, I used to tell him he’d call me one day from the Amazon Rainforest as he sat swatting flies, waiting on the perfect shot. In retrospect, I decided to rethink that. It’s my dream for my son to work for National Geographic, but not necessarily his.

How many times have you inadvertently said something or thought something only to have your thoughts or words manifested. I’ve heard countless successful individuals state how they professed what they would one day accomplish. They spoke and believed what they wanted for their lives. I’ve begun to work on this process. I have affirmations I read aloud on a daily basis and I’ve added a in couple for my son. I now see myself where I’d like to be in 3 – 5 – and even 10 years. It’s a matter of retraining myself to think on the outcome I desire and more so the outcome God wants for me. I’m learning to rethink my way to success.

Many people have already mastered the art of positive thinking, perhaps you’re one of them. If however, you’re like me and still working on it. I invite you to join me as we rethink our way to success. For the most part, I’m a pretty positive person, but there’s always room for growth!

P.S. As for my son, I’m focused on the fantastically creative photographer his is and applauding his growth. I’m rethinking my role as mom and cheerleader. It’s my place to offer kudos from the sidelines and only come into the game when invited. By the way, my picture for this blog is one of his. It’s a shot of the bridge over the Mataponi River in King and Queen County at night. If you’re interested in knowing more about my son and his work, just let me know.

Ciao!

Savannah J.  providing a place of tranquility away from the stress of life. 

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Soooo, what just happened?

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“There are three types of people in the world: those who make things happen, those who watch things happen and those who wonder what happened.” I’ve heard the previous quote by the late Mary Kay Ash on more than one occasion. One morning I had a conversation with a co-worker whom I find to be exceptionally gifted and bright. However, as I listened to her words, I found myself placing her in the second category of the late Mary Kay Ash’s quote. Now before you pass judgement on me for presumably passing judgement on her, allow me to explain.

On that morning another co-worker had been called into our supervisor’s office and offered a promotion. For the sake of clarity, I’ll call her Co-worker B, and the other Co-worker A. Following Co-worker B’s disappearance into our supervisor’s office, Co-worker A became consumed with curiosity as to what the talk between Co-worker B and our supervisor was about. “The talk” was the hot topic of the morning as Co-worker A, two others and I walked to our cars after completing our night shift. When I spotted Co-worker B headed toward her car, Co-worker A waited to inquire from her as to what had “happened.” Well, as I previously said, Co-worker B had been offered a promotion.

A third of the way into my drive home, my phone rang, it was Co-worker A. She was beside herself with anger about Co-worker B’s offer. She was upset because she herself had asked to apply for the promotion and was told she didn’t qualify. Her rant went on for the remainder of my drive and then some. Co-worker A was upset because she felt disrespected and walked over. She felt that all her hard work, coming in on days we were short to help out and attending numerous meetings was all for naught. No one noticed; no one cared. All her toiling was futile.

As I listened to her, I came to realize she was waiting for acknowledgement and opportunities to be given to her. Now, sometimes that concept works and sometimes it doesn’t. I’m not trying to make light of her situation because I know her character and how hard of a worker she is. I know all she said is truth. The picture I’m trying to paint here is, how this gifted, talented, and intelligent woman was watching things happen instead of saying, the heck with this, I’m going to grab the bull by the horns and make something happen for me!

I’ve come to understand we have everything we need to succeed already on the inside of us, all we have to do is tap into it. After listening, I suggested to Co-worker A, that she take her talents and resources and carve out a future for herself instead of waiting for something to happen. At the end of our conversation, Co-worker A agreed with me; not only did she agree, she took action.

So many times in life, we sit silently by and allow opportunity to slip away. Instead of going after our dreams we allow them to grow dust. We not only watch things happen, we wonder what happened. I, too, have been guilty of this. As of a couple years ago, I made the decision to take steps to make things happen in my life. Now, I’m a firm believer that God has the final say, but James 2:26 that says  “. . . faith without works is dead.”

I don’t believe God wants me sitting idly by waiting for opportunity to fall in my lab, I believe we have some control of our future and it’s up to us to set our goals and execute. It’s up to us to make things happen!

Ciao!

Savannah J.  providing a place of tranquility away from the stress of life. 

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Savannah is the author of The Prey now available in eBook on Kindle http://amzn.to/1xg0pgM and on Google Play Books http://bit.ly/1q5hncz

Also look for Raising Tristan on Google Play Books http://bit.ly/1pL4GqN and on Kindle http://amzn.to/1AlHl6g

For The Ladies: Rocking Your ShePower!

FireworksLadies, ladies, ladies! There is no better time in history than now to be a woman. We are leading the way from the boardroom to the courtroom to the operating room to the classroom. Many of us are choosing with pride to stay home and educate our children in our homes. No matter where you find yourself at this time, rock your ShePower.

Perhaps you have a dream you’ve always wanted to fulfill but are waiting for the right time. I say to you, now is the time. If your dilemma is where to start, I can help with that. Begin by purchasing a journal to log your ideas and goals, you see a dream is just a dream until you write it down. Once a dream is written down and ideas are also penned on how to achieve the results you desire, your dream becomes a goal or plan.

The next thing you want to do is to align yourself with women who are already in or headed in the direction you desire to go. Remember you will only be as successful as the five closes persons in your circle. I’m not saying ditch your girls, if they aren’t living the dream you desire for yourself, what I’m saying is, you need two circles: a circle of friends and a professional circle of women who can mentor and show you how to reach your full potential.

As you formulate your plan to live your dream and rock your ShePower do your research and seek learning opportunities. It’s fine to attend free events or read articles online pertaining to what you want to do, but we get what we pay for. Establish a budget and take some classes on whatever it is you aspire to do. Attend networking events but keep in mind, networking involves more than handing out business cards. Approach women you don’t know, and introduce yourself with eye contact and a firm handshake; that action speaks confidence. If there are opportunities to mingle such as lunch breaks, etc use that time to sit with women you don’t know. The key is to build relationships.

I’m going to stop here for now. In my next post we will delve deeper into researching and formulating your plan for success. Be sure and follow my blog in order to stay informed of forthcoming postings. My intent is to pour into you as others have poured into me. Below are links to the websites and Twitter pages a few women who are rocking their ShePower. I am also sharing a link to a gentleman who has written a book on networking. (How many know there are men rocking their He-Power who can mentor us too) Please check our ladies and gentleman out as their wisdom is invaluable. Until next time, rock your ShePower!

Ciao!

Savannah J. www.thesavannahjpublications.com Follow Savannah J on Twitter: Twitter https://twitter.com/Savana74

Checkout these outstanding women: DeKesha Williams at DeKeshaWilliams.com, http://t.co/MFYkoQ45o7 Follow DeKesha on Twitter:  https://twitter.com/de_kesha

Ke’Aundra McIntyre at The Image Addict,  http://www.theimageaddict.com/ Follow Ke’Aundra on Twitter: https://twitter.com/key_imageaddict

Marcia Page CEO of Chief in Stilettos, http://chiefinstilettos.org/ Follow Marcia on Twitter: https://twitter.com/ChiefnStilettos

David Wilson’s book on Google Play Books: “I Hate Networking Events” http://bit.ly/1kSTpVu And on Kindle: http://amzn.to/1n7moAq