The Authors’ Corner

Welcome to The Authors’ Corner. This week’s featured authors are Al B. Quarles II  and Lourraine Deluna.

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What makes this book special is Al and Lourraine are a father-daughter team. It’s their desire to increase awareness of  bulling and to help put a stop to it. This is Lourraine’s first publication and Al’s third.

Bullies by Al and Raine

Book Synopsis

Bullying is a form of abuse. Bullies use their power to intentionally, repeatedly harm others that seem to be less powerful. However, you can help stop it. It is our hope that this book sparks conversations, inspires activities that teach about bullying, and gives students that are being bullied a voice. It does not have to be a formal program for bullying awareness to be effective. Whether you are an educator, parent, student, or member of the community, it takes all of us to help eliminate bullying. Please remember that bullying is a big deal, and it is not just kids being kids. Please let bullying prevention start with you!

For more information and to purchase,  Bullies Are Not Just Boys: http://amzn.to/2wyYCx1

To email Al and Lourraine: abquarles2@gmail.com

Please consider supporting them by purchasing their book and spreading the word. I was bullied as a child and teenager, and even in my adult years in my profession until I said, enough. I now speak up and speak out  for those being mistreated, whether children or adults. Bullying needs to be stopped once and for all. Together we can make it happen!

As always, thanks for stopping by.

Ciao!

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“Am I Real Now ?”

starThe title of my post comes from a movie I recently watched called The Christmas Bunny. It was a sweet tale of a young girl named, Julia who was in need of a forever home.  In the movie, Julia’s favorite video was The Velveteen Rabbit based on the book and she watched it over and over again. At the end of The Christmas Bunny, Julia’s foster family asked her to become a permanent member of their family. She looked at her family and asked, “am I real now?” I thought about how profound her question was.

If you’ve read The Velveteen Rabbit or seen the movie, you’ll remember Skin Horse, a very wise toy tells Rabbit, toys become real because of the love of children. In the movie The Christmas Bunny, Julia asks her forever family, am I real now because she finally feels loved. I thought of all the people in the world who at this very moment lack the love of another human being in their lives. They probably feel invisible and perhaps unreal.

I’m not one to ponder such things without doing my part to find a solution. Showing love can be as simple as making eye contact and speaking to that man, woman or child walking along with their head bowed. We can visit a neighbor who otherwise wouldn’t have company. Or sit next to someone at church who always attends and sits alone.

During this holiday season, which can be especially painful for some, there are many options open for us to show love. I ask you to join me in doing just that. Lets bless our fellow man, it not only benefits them, but us too.

As always, I hope my thoughts encourage you.

Ciao!

Savannah J. providing a place of tranquility away from the stress of life.

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Also look for Raising Tristan on Google Play Books http://bit.ly/1pL4GqN and on Kindle http://amzn.to/1AlHl6g

Forgiveness

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I’ve been participating with the Cleveland Clinic’s Stress Free Now for Healers online program. It’s a wonderful program that offers meditation as well as different strategies for dealing with stress. I love the program and came across a piece I want to share with you. It’s titled The Science of Forgiveness. I believe we can all struggle with unforgiveness from time to time. Although I embrace forgiveness for my sake, I’ve had to give myself a talking to every now and again. I do hope the lesson on The Science of Forgiveness from The Cleveland Clinic blesses you as much as it has me.

The Science of Forgiveness

You may wonder why we are including an article on the benefits of forgiveness in this week’s lesson about how to improve your relationship with yourself. It’s because forgiveness is something we do for ourselves.

When our thoughts turn to people who have wronged us or to situations where we got hurt, the story those thoughts tell can be powerfully compelling and quite painful. We often become preoccupied with repeatedly reliving the details of how we were wronged. It’s like a gripping Hollywood movie. No wonder these story lines can, and often do, last a lifetime. Unforgiveness is stressful: Reliving negative past events in our minds and harboring anger and resentment toward others comes at a great cost to our health and well-being. When we are willing to let go of resentment, we reclaim our power from these past events and choose to move forward with our lives.

Three Types of Forgiveness
Forgiveness is experienced on a continuum. How deeply we are able to forgive determines the benefit we receive when we let go of resentment. Moving from lowest to highest, the three types of forgiveness are:

    1. Unforgiveness: In this state, we spend time and energy ruminating over the hurt we suffered. The thoughts that arise as we dwell on what happened often cause anger, resentment, hostility, bitterness, fear, depression and a quest for vengeance. All of these emotional states trigger a stress response in the body.
    2. Decisional forgiveness: Often the people who wrong us are people who are part of our lives—friends, family members and coworkers. In this instance, we can decide to set aside the resentment and forgive in order to keep the relationship functioning smoothly. This tactic reduces our hostility, but it doesn’t necessarily cool the stress response, because there are still negative feelings toward this person floating beneath the surface of our actions.
    3. Emotional forgiveness: Only when we can acknowledge our troubling emotions and then let them go can we get to this third stage of forgiveness. In this state, we create an emotional shift and are able to develop genuine compassion for the person or persons who wronged us. We can see how the situation may have looked from their point of view, and we can genuinely forgive them for how they handled things. Once here, we create a positive emotional state when we reclaim our power from the past and let go, freeing our mind and heart to focus on the present.As we discuss this topic, and as you consider where in your life you need to forgive, it’s important to keep in mind that forgiveness is not the same as forgetting an offense or condoning it. This is an especially important truth for people who have experienced a traumatic event inflicted by someone else.The Importance of Self-Forgiveness
      It’s important to note that forgiveness doesn’t just extend to other people. Being able to forgive yourself for your mistakes and missteps is just as important as forgiving your mother-in-law for criticizing your parenting style. In fact, without being able to develop compassion for and extend forgiveness to yourself, it’s much more difficult to do so for other people. Interestingly, studies show that there’s a connection between self-forgiveness and health: Higher levels of self-forgiveness were directly associated with improved mental health status, lower levels of chronic pain and higher levels of healthy lifestyle choices.

      The Cleveland Clinic’s Stress Free Now for Healers Program.

Ciao!

Savannah J.  providing a place of tranquility away from the stress of life. 

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Savannah is the author of The Prey now available in eBook on Kindle http://amzn.to/1xg0pgM and on Google Play Books http://bit.ly/1q5hncz

Also look for Raising Tristan on Google Play Books http://bit.ly/1pL4GqN and on Kindle http://amzn.to/1AlHl6g

Leaving Those Things Which Are Behind, Behind.

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There are times when I find myself rehashing events from my past. The memories aren’t always good. Occasionally, they are thoughts of persons who’ve wronged me or my son or my family or painful situations created my me or others. Whenever I catch myself dwelling on such times, I remind myself of the scripture in Philippians 3:13 where Paul says,  . . . “But I do one thing. I forget everything that is behind me and look forward to that which is ahead of me.” NLV

I’m sure I’m not the only person out here who’s guilty of such reminiscence. Now, the dangerous thing about dwelling on the past, especially instances where others have harmed us or created situations that caused us pain, is it breeds unforgivingness. I believe it’s okay not to forget as remembering can save us further heartache in that it protects us from repeating the same mistakes. But I’m huge on forgiveness. I feel an unforgiving heart is like cancer; it only harms us. It eats us up from the inside out. By holding on to painful memories and not releasing the person or persons who harmed us, we give that person power over us.

I pride myself at being a pretty happy person. I choose to be happy. Recreating painful memories takes away from my joy, even if just for a few minutes. And, it doesn’t solve a thing because the situation is in the past. It’s history. I do hope if you find yourself traveling down the memory lane of painful events, you’ll choose to let go. We all take that miserable journey from time to time but remember, there is a solution. Just close your eyes, take a deep breath and let it go. Release the thought and individual(s). I promise, you’ll be the happier for it and it’s been scientifically proven, you’ll add years to your life.

Ciao!

Savannah J.  providing a place of tranquility away from the stress of life. 

Http://www.thesavannahjpublications.com 

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Savannah is the author of The Prey now available in eBook on Kindle http://amzn.to/1xg0pgM and on Google Play Books http://bit.ly/1q5hncz

Also look for Raising Tristan on Google Play Books http://bit.ly/1pL4GqN and on Kindle http://amzn.to/1AlHl6g

Bitter-Sweet Memories

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One day last week, I attended a networking event for women in my area. The venue was in a shopping center I used to frequent as young mother after my son was born. There was a store at that time in the shopping center, that sold discounted children’s wear, and furniture. I can remember buying my son a highchair, stroller and disposable diapers there.

After the event was over, I did a slow cruise through the parking lot. So many memories filled my mind and heart. I recalled the sound of my son’s voice as a child and the sweet smell of his skin as a baby and toddler. The remembrance of those days, now long since gone brought tears to my eyes. I’d say they were bitter-sweet.

Bitter-sweet because time continues on and we can’t go back, When my son was a little boy, I did things with him to create memories for both of us. I spent quite a bit of quality time with him; I took lots of pictures with my camera and my mind. I used to hold his tiny hands as often as I could. I’d sit by his bed and watch him sleep and when he fell asleep in my arms, I’d listen to the sound of him breathing close to my ear.

I’m so incredibly thankful for my son and having had the opportunity to raise him. My son has been an exceptional child and young man. As a baby and toddler, he used to wake from a nap laughing. He never gave me a minutes grief as a teenager. He obtained the rank of Eagle Scout and is now a phenomenal photographer.

Looking back over our past can be bitter-sweet when we realize the past can not be relived and there are things we’d like to change or experience again. But we can draw from the sweetness of those memories and focus on the now and future, because I believe the best is yet to come. If you find yourself living in the past, may I kindly suggest you refocus your thoughts? What is done is done and what is gone is gone, however, if we learn to live in the now; to be present in this moment our views on life will change completely.

I miss the days of my son as a baby and little boy but his days as a young adult man bring me just as much joy. He still comes to me with wonder and excitement in his eyes when experiencing something new. He still shares his hopes and dreams with me and believe it or not, we still play around and act silly sometimes.

The present has so many wonderful things to offer us as does the future. Lets keep our eyes focused on the now and enjoy the blessings of today, with that we will reap the sweet without the bitter.

Ciao!

Savannah J.  providing a place of tranquility away from the stress of life. 

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Savannah is the author of The Prey now available in eBook on Kindle http://amzn.to/1xg0pgM and on Google Play Books http://bit.ly/1q5hncz

Also look for Raising Tristan on Google Play Books http://bit.ly/1pL4GqN and on Kindle http://amzn.to/1AlHl6g

The Hero in Us

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I recently read about the death of young basketball star, Lauren Hill (not the singer). In reading about Ms. Hill, I also viewed a video about her life and success as a basketball great. What impressed me most was her never give up spirit. She was determined to live the best life possible regardless her diagnosis and prognosis. (For those not familiar with Lauren Hill, she recently died of a brain tumor at the age of 19.) As I sat watching Ms. Hill’s video, I couldn’t help but cry. What a fighting spirit she had and what an example she left for all of us.

The story of Lauren caused me to pause and question my own legacy. What, if any impression am I making on those around me. Am I seen as someone to look up too? Is my life an example for others to follow? When they look at me do they see a woman of God or just a woman?

I once heard a saying about the dates and wording on tomb stones; it went something like this, “When you look at a tombstone, you see a name, something nice about the person, the year they were born and the year they died…and a small dash in between. The dash…it’s what we do between the time we’re born and the time we die…that’s what’s most important. It’s critical because the dash is your identity…it’s who you are—husband, wife, mom, dad.  The dash is your influence…it’s how you touch the lives of others.  The dash is your legacy…it’s what you’ll leave behind to future generations.” Mark Merrill.

Young Lauren Hill died a hero in my eyes and the eyes of many others because of what she chose to do with her dash. She chose to be an example to other children living with and fighting cancer. She used her energy when not on the court to raise awareness to childhood cancer. Ms. Hill used her dash to make a difference.

In the year 2000, I lost a sister to ovarian cancer. I vowed not allow her death to be in vain. My dream and my goal was to start a non-profit in her honor and raise awareness to ovarian cancer. I made a written plan and enlisted the help of a relative who started a successful non-profit in her late daughter’s honor. Fifteen years later, I’ve done nothing. After viewing Lauren Hill’s video, I decided to move forward with my plans by hosting an event this fall for Ovarian Cancer Awareness Month and donating the proceeds to ovarian cancer research.

It doesn’t take much to be a hero in someone’s eyes. It may be something as simple as helping children or seniors learn to read. Volunteering at the local food bank or shelter or becoming a Big Brother or Big Sister to a young person who needs guidance. I challenge you to join me and embrace the hero in you and make a difference in our world. Goodness knows this world can use it and what better time than now.

If you belong to an organization making an impact on your community or if you’re doing something on your own to improve our world, drop me a note in the comments section and let me know. I’d love to hear from you and you never know who you may inspire.

Ciao!

Savannah J.  providing a place of tranquility away from the stress of life. 

Http://www.thesavannahjpublications.com 

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Savannah is the author of The Prey now available in eBook on Kindle http://amzn.to/1xg0pgM and on Google Play Books http://bit.ly/1q5hncz

Also look for Raising Tristan on Google Play Books http://bit.ly/1pL4GqN and on Kindle http://amzn.to/1AlHl6g

Sometimes The Answer Is No

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Have you ever wished or prayed for something or someone to come into your life only to have the longing go unfulfilled? I’m sure you have, as a matter of fact, I don’t know of anyone who hasn’t experienced that type of disappointment. I’ve experienced the frustration of an unmet desire a few times myself. What I eventually learned is sometimes, God in His infinite wisdom says no.

When I was younger, I wanted five children, I have one. I tried everything, even adoption but nothing seemed to work for me. Finally I had a talk with myself and accepted the fact, I was meant to be a mother of one. You see, in life no matter how much we want a thing to happen for us, sometimes the answer is no.

I believe my Higher Power whom I choose to call God, says no for very good reasons. If God is our Father, as a parent, sometimes He must say no to protect us. I had a difficult pregnancy with my son and came close to death in childbirth. It stands to reason had I had another child, I may not have lived. It took me quite a few years to wrap my mind around that fact as I desperately wanted more children.

Today, I’m grateful for God’s infinite wisdom. It’s kept me safe on more than one occasion and guided me on many others. I now find myself advising younger people on the affairs of life and I don’t hesitate to let them know, it’s okay to say no. I tell them, no is a good answer. We may not want to hear it, but it’s okay. When we’ve reached our limits and our plates are full, and we’re asked to do one more thing saying no can keep us from burnout.

Disappointments in life will always come; it doesn’t have to stop us from moving forward. At those times we must seek new direction to achieve our goals. In the instances where nothing we try works, perhaps that thing or person we’re seeking isn’t for us. Sometimes the answer is no.

Ciao!

Savannah J.  providing a place of tranquility away from the stress of life. 

Http://www.thesavannahjpublications.com 

Follow Savannah on Twitter   http://bit.ly/1tBBC6o 

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Savannah is the author of The Prey now available in eBook on Kindle http://amzn.to/1xg0pgM and on Google Play Books http://bit.ly/1q5hncz

Also look for Raising Tristan on Google Play Books http://bit.ly/1pL4GqN and on Kindle http://amzn.to/1AlHl6g